Working life can feel like a never-ending masterclass on how to fit in and fix all the ways we are not yet good enough. Constantly comparing ourselves to others and to standards that are not our own, we scurry to prove and improve ourselves. We wrongly believe that who we are is inconvenient or somehow broken. We feel overwhelmed and depleted. We resist the things we need the most. We struggle to cope. We lose touch with who we really are and what we really want for our lives.
But what if true success and happiness flows from being who we are, not changing who we are?
What if everything we need is already inside of us?
What if we just need release the tethers that hold us down?
What if we just need to figure out what it means be true to ourselves?
Beneath all the layers of conditioning, under the masks and armour, we all want the same things. We want to live and work in a way that honours the truth of who we are. We want to be part of something bigger than ourselves. We want to feel seen, really seen.
John Mellencamp sang, ‘Life goes on, long after the thrill of living is gone.’ The practice of self-fidelity lifts us out of a half-dead existence to rediscover the thrill of living – through our work. As we rise above our legacy of rigid, restricted thinking we can begin to consider a broad spectrum of new perspectives and explore the highest aspirations we hold for our one, short, working life. By cultivating a better understanding of our essential nature, and all the things that have been suppressing it, we lift ourselves and others up – this is the practice of self-fidelity.
This book is for you if:
- You are sick and tired of trying to ‘fix’, improve and prove yourself
- You want to experience greater fulfillment, happiness and vitality at work, and in life
- You believe that work has the potential to be life-enhancing – not soul-destroying
Self-Fidelity is for all employees and leaders who yearn to lift themselves, and others up.
As we restore faith in ourselves, we restore our faith in each other.